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Monday, April 1, 2013

Just Another Manic Monday



April 1, 2013

For whatever reason Mondays are high stress days around our home. In reviewing past posts you start to see a theme. I remember experiencing the “Monday Syndrome” during my work-away-from-home days and thinking ‘What’s going on here? Why is very Monday so difficult?’ I have never stumbled across an answer that solves the problem either. I do know that the ‘It must be Monday!’ has followed me into my stay-at-home-mommy days.

Knowing Mondays are hard has changed the way we do thing around here though. We still cram a lot of household duties into this one day. I like to get the majority of the cleaning done on Mondays (including laundry!). We like to relax on the weekends, so we tend to let the little things slide. The result? A pile of dirty dishes; rooms to be tidied; floors to be mopped; toys from every corner of the house to be put back in its proper place; and a mountain of laundry to washed, dried, and folded.

If we can accomplish everything on Monday, we have the rest of the week to read and play during the time that has been allotted for chores. For instance, in our home chores follow morning devotions and usually last for an hour, then play time. Now you can get a lot done in on hour, but I would rather cut chore time short and extend play time. So instead of our schedule looking something like this:
MTWThF 9-10 am chores
MTWThF 10-11 am play time
our schedule looks more like this:
M 9-11:30 am chores (no morning play time)
TWThF 9-9:30 am chores
TWThF 9:30-11:30 play time

You would think that Monday means we don’t see sunlight but that’s not true. There’s plenty of sunlight streaming in through the windows :-)! So, while Mommy is busy in the kitchen and laundry room the children are cleaning their rooms. And if they had diligently worked during our nightly 10-minute speed clean, then they have time to play before I’ve finished sweeping and have prepared the room for them to mop. And as my son has finally realized (wahoo!!), if he mops the floor right the first time, he’s done in 15 minutes and off playing again. We’re usually done with three-quarters of the housework by lunch time.

Some days the system works, some days is does not.

Today was one of those days that it just didn’t work – kinda. Oh we still got almost everything done but not without a lot of conflict. You see I had somewhere I wanted to go. That meant cramming an entire day into a few hours. It started out well enough. We were all up by 7am. I had laundry gathered, sorted, and the first load in by 7:30. No one was clamoring for breakfast so I sent everyone to their respective bedrooms. And that’s where the battle began. Little Big Boy Man had his room done in 15 minutes (after several false starts) and moved on to mopping the floor. He was done and ready to go 30 minutes before I was! But my Sweetie Pies took 12 hours and half a dozen backside incentives to get the job done.

I was able to get to my coffee date with my oldest son in before he headed back to college. And the little ones got to spend two hours with Grandma. They always love that…the snacks are way more sugary there!

The laundry is washed, the dishes are done, and the fire wood is brought in. The floors are swept and mopped. Toys have been picked up and put away. Schooling took place, and dinner was made.

You would think I could chalk the day up as a success. But no! More on that later……………..



“The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat." - Proverbs 13:4

Monday, March 25, 2013

God's Lesson Plan



March 17, 2013

This time of year is a season of reflection for our family as another school year nears its end and we start planning for the next. It is a time to evaluate what worked and what didn’t. If it didn’t work, why didn’t it work? Was it bad material? Faulty instructions? Or operator error?

For the academics those questions are difficult to answer. Maybe it’s none of those; or maybe it’s all of them. What works for one family may not work for another. I have read many articles over the years that say if it doesn’t work don’t be afraid to dump the curriculum and try something else. That’s the beauty of homeschooling. I have even passed that sage knowledge on to others.

Know your child is another gem of wisdom. Identify their learning style. Study them to ascertain the optimal time of day to teach certain subjects. For instance, if your child is fidgety in the afternoons, it is probably not a good idea to do seat work. If your child is easily distracted, don’t have his work space near a picture window.

Tackle your most difficult subjects first and save the easy-breezy stuff for last. There’s nothing like trying to fight over Math at the same time the little ones are waking from their naps, you’re thinking about what’s for dinner, and phone calls start coming in because everyone knows your “school day” is almost over. Plus, saving the easy stuff for last ends the day on a positive note and that makes for a pleasant evening.

Save the extras for last. We cover the core every day, but we have a few subjects that we study that are not required at his age. If we have time to get them done, GREAT. If not, NO BIG DEAL. Life is about learning not checking off a To Do list.

So the academics are easy to sort through. Took five, maybe ten minutes to decide what to keep and what to dump, what we’re adding in next year and what will wait. But since our focus is on the eternal futures of our children, part of this season of reflection must include our training and discipleship.

I took the same approach in evaluating this part of our education and found the answers a little more straight forward.

What worked? Practically nothing! I read a daily devotional to my children in the morning after breakfast. Or at least I did until I couldn’t take the jockey for position next to Mommy, the fighting over who gets to hold the Bible while I read from the Devotional, and the covert teasing that inevitably ensued. I gave up.

Was the material bad? No. I love it and the kids love it but we just didn’t seem to be able to get through it without conflict.

Were the instructions faulty? No. It is the Word of God afterall!

Operator error? Clearly! And that is the problem across the board when it comes to training and discipleship. This year (and last) has been difficult for us. I keep thinking today will be the day I break through the fog. Today will be the day everything clicks. Today will be the day we can start building our fortress instead of excavating the foundation. But then evening comes and I wonder how it all went so wrong.



Maybe I should read the Lesson Plan again.

“All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness that the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.” – 2 Timothy 3:16-17